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Sunday, May 11, 2014
Are You a Fixer?
is Mother’s Day and pulpits once again will turn to Proverbs 31 to preach about this
most wonderful woman.
me, it always feels like a checklist of qualities I must strive to accomplish. “She does [her husband] good and not evil…” Check – got that
one. “…she brings food from afar…”
Yep! Got that one too – from the far place of the grocery store. “She also rises while it is night…” –
still working on this one. “…considers a
field… buys it…[and] plants a
list goes on and on, but I fear the unchecked qualities far outnumber my
checked ones. So, does that mean my children won’t “rise up and call me blessed” or my husband won’t “praise” me? No, my desire, like hers,
is to be the best wife and mother I can be; to make sure my family has all they
need for healthy living. But, there are only twenty-four hours in the day and
unfortunately, I’m not perfect. I can’t do it all or fix everything, even though I
the ages, mothers remain the same. While our children are young, we are the fixer,
comforter, supplier of needs, provider of wants, producer of joy, and
disciplinarian. But, do we stop when they reach adulthood? As our grown
children tell us their problems, make unwise decisions or wander from faith,
how do we handle it? Do we kick into “Mommy-mode”, rushing in to kiss their
boo-boo and make it all better?
we Fixer’s spring
into action as we always did and do whatever it takes to stop the pain. When we
can’t, we fret, worry, and continue to look for some way tofix
things. Finally, turning to prayer more as a plea to “help me fix
this” rather than “Lord, You know what’s best”.
the “Mom” characteristics I mentioned. Are they not, on a much grander scale,
also attributes of our great God? Jesus said of us, “You are gods…” (John 6:34) He was not meaning we are
God, but at times, we function like Him. God created us in His image, nevertheless
sin makes us imperfect and finite. We do not know the end from the
beginning. Therefore,fixing may not be what’s best.
unwise decisions could have caused our adult child pain, God may want to use it
to correct and teach drawing them to Himself. Therefore, rushing in to fix
things, bailing them out of a jam they created, could be making it worse and
hindering the work of God in their lives.
knows all perfectly. If they or we need pain, He allows it. If it’s comfort, He
holds us. Whatever our need, when we trust Him, He provides in the way that’s
best. He is our Almighty, all-sufficient El Shaddai.
mothers, we so completely care for our young children, that as they grow, we
find it extremely hard to let go. When pain happens in our adult child’s life,
pain also happens to us. Therefore, we Fixer’s, must first turn to prayer and allow El Shaddai
to guide us in the fixing. He knows our heart, our love for our
children, and our desire to make it all better. Remember, He is not only all-sufficient
for us; He is all-sufficient for them.
Genesis 17:1 is where God first presents
Himself as El Shaddai. He said to Abram, “…I
am God Almighty; walk before Me and be blameless…”